I’m a big fan of naughtiness in the right situations 😈 But there are some kinds of naughtiness you should definitely avoid if you want to meet with a provider. It’s perhaps a lesser known secret that providers keep blacklists of contacts they think might be trouble, or even dangerous. Every provider has a personal blacklist, and access to blacklists shared with other providers, and those are lists you don’t want to be on! Here are a few tips to keep yourself off the list:
- Contact a provider only if you are serious about meeting. Providers are happy to discuss the details of setting up a meeting or video chat or other service by phone, text, email, etc, but their contact info is generally not an offer for free chat. It’s ok to contact a provider to ask general questions about a service, or to take a couple of attempts to schedule a meeting, but excessive conversation without booking a service can lead to getting labeled as a time-waster.
- If you are late or must cancel, communicate! Once you have agreed upon a time, place, and length of meeting, a provider will set that time aside for you, and may turn down other clients, rearrange their schedule, and spend time getting ready for your date. Providers understand that life happens, and things sometimes come up. Let your provider know as soon as possible if you can’t make it to your date or if you’re running late. They will appreciate the communication. No-showing a provider for an agreed-upon meeting without contacting them is a sure way to earn a bad reputation.
- Stick with the agreement. When you set up a meeting with a provider, show up when you say you will and have the agreed-upon donation ready up-front. Showing up with less than that amount or suddenly being short on cash when the provider arrives is dishonest and will generally not earn you any favorite points.
- Be smart in your communications. Providers are in the legal business of professional companionship. Making sexual references or asking questions about sex acts or drugs in your communications by text, email, phone, or otherwise when booking an in-person appointment is not only disrespectful, it’s illegal in most of the United States. This includes using common slang and other well-known shorthand, like “raw” or “BBBJ” or “greek”, even if money is not mentioned. You never know who might be watching your communications in the present or future, and no provider wants to put their business at risk.
- Respect your provider’s boundaries. Most providers genuinely enjoy making their clients happy, and will do all they can to make your experience together the best it can be. Keep the relationship professional and they will be there for you to provide an escape whenever you want one. Don’t try to pry into their personal lives, stalk them, or push them to perform services they have told you they do not offer. It’s ok to have strong feelings after a meeting, but remember your provider is in the fantasy business and don’t lose perspective on reality.
- Treat your provider right. This covers anything not mentioned above. Role-playing aside, providers are regular people and deserve to be treated with decency. Manners and common courtesy go a long way. Ask for consent before trying a new activity. Don’t bring weapons or contraband to an appointment. Never be physically or emotionally threatening, abusive, or violent. Use common sense in your interactions, and if you’re unsure about something, ask! And while a tip is not expected, a little something extra will put you at the top of the Nice list and give your provider incentive to go above and beyond for you.
Follow these guidelines and you’ll earn the right kind of reputation!
